HOW WELL DOES THIS WORK?

         The next thing you're probably wondering about is how well 
     this process works.  You have a great deal of control over that; 
     but, under the right conditions, EXTREMELY well...  If your guilt 
     feelings are the side-effect of clinical depression, if you are 
     experiencing false guilt over issues which you had no real control, 
     or if you refuse to make the needed changes, you'd be wasting your 
     time by contacting me.  If, on the other hand, your guilt is the 
     result of a specific event, or series of events, in which you made 
     poorly thought through or unethical decisions which contributed to 
     an outcome which either caused or could have caused significant 
     harm; and, you are willing to dilegently follow the suggestions 
     which are made, you can use this experience as your bridge away 
     from your past.  Since the punishment is directly tied to the 
     events which caused the guilt, people are able to come away with a 
     feeling that those event have finally been "paid for in full..."  
     To further reinforce that, you have the option of taking home a 
     video tape of the punishment, to play when you experience "habit 
     guilt." (Similar to finding oneself starting to write out a check for home 
     mortgage or car payment, during the first couple of months after it 
     has been paid off...)
         It's very common for people to tell me that they have made 
     more pregress within the few days we worked together than they 
     had experienced in many years of conventional therapy.  It's 
     been heartwarming to me to hear people's accounts of how their 
     lives, careers, and relationships have improved since they no  
     longer feel a subconscious need to sabotage these things, as a 
     form of self-punishment.  It's also rather common for people to 
     remark to me how differently people seem to respond to them, 
     now that they are viewing themselves in a positive, rather 
     than a negative, light...
         I don't want to give anyone the impression that this is 
     some sort of "silver bullet," which will make your past 
     vanish.  If you have a substance abuse problem, bio-chemical 
     changes have probably occurred which are irreversiable; but, 
     clearing the emotional baggage will normally make recovery 
     easier and more pleasant to maintain.  If there has been a 
     significant amount of collateral damage to your self image, 
     you will need to involve yourself in positive follow-up 
     activities in order to rebuild your self-esteem; but, this 
     will be much easier without being constantly weighted down 
     by your earlier actions.  If you are counting on others 
     forgiving you as the result of your having undergone this 
     process, the potential is always there for that to not 
     occur; but, when you are able to forgive yourself in a 
     constructive manner, it opens the door to other positive 
     changes, which might repair that relationship at some 
     later date.  If they still choose not to accept the 
     changes you've made, that's indicative of THEIR character, 
     rather than yours!...
         I have NEVER had anyone report back that they didn't 
     feel the results they obtained were enough to more than 
     make up for what they had to go through to obtain them.









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